To Epictetus, all external events are determined by fate, and are thus beyond our control, but we can accept whatever happens calmly and dispassionately. Individuals, however, are responsible for their own actions which they can examine and control through rigorous self-discipline. Suffering arises from trying to control what is uncontrollable, or from neglecting what is within our power. As part of the universal city that is the universe, human beings have a duty of care to all fellow humans. The person who followed these precepts would achieve happiness.
EpictetusYou may be always victorious if you will never enter into any contest where the issue does not wholly depend upon yourself.
Epictetus-โฆ.when things seem to have reached that stage, merely say โI wonโt play any longerโ, and take your departure; but if you stay, stop lamenting.
Epictetus