Attachment Style Quiz: 17 Would You Rather Questions That Uncover Your Relationship Patterns

Discover your attachment style with this 17-question “Would You Rather” quiz 💞 Find out how you connect, cope, and love — and what it says about your relationship patterns

This image was created with the assistance of DALL·E

Ever wonder why you react the way you do in relationships — why some people make you feel safe and others trigger anxiety, avoidance, or confusion? The answer might lie in your attachment style, a core piece of your emotional blueprint shaped by early bonds, past experiences, and how you’ve learned to give and receive love.

➡️ Zombie Apocalypse Edition: 14 Would You Rather Questions That’ll Bite Hard

In this “Would You Rather” quiz, each of the 17 questions is crafted to dig beneath the surface. These aren't just about preference — they reveal how you handle closeness, communication, vulnerability, and emotional safety in relationships. Are you anxious, avoidant, secure, or somewhere in between?

➡️ Only Millennial Kids Can Handle These 15 Nostalgic Would You Rather Questions

Let’s explore the patterns that shape your heart. Be honest with your answers — not with how you want to act, but how you actually do. This isn’t about judgment. It’s about growth. 💌🧠💞

Would you rather…?

Be in a relationship where you feel constant reassurance 💬❤️Be in a relationship where you both need very little affirmation 🧍🧍

Would you rather…?

Text back immediately so no one thinks you’re ignoring them 📱💬Wait to respond so you don’t seem too eager or vulnerable ⏳😬

Would you rather…?

Feel too emotionally close and need space sometimes 🧊🚪Feel like your partner is never quite close enough 🫂🔍

Would you rather…?

Be with someone who is overly communicative 📢📢Be with someone who shares just enough — but keeps some distance 🧍‍♂️🧠

Would you rather…?

Stay in a relationship too long because you fear being alone 😢🕰️Leave early to avoid getting hurt later 🏃‍♂️💔

Would you rather…?

Ask, “Are we okay?” even if you just spoke an hour ago 🫣📞Assume everything is fine unless told otherwise 😌📴