In asserting that people don't change, what she means is that they don't change for the better. Whereas changing for the worse, that goes without saying.

Other people are not here to fulfill our needs or meet our expectations, nor will they always treat us well. Failure to accept this will generate feelings of anger and resentment. Peace of mind comes with taking people as they are and emphasizing the positive.

You will not be the same person coming out of a relationship as you were going into it.

It’s a known fact that in certain contexts people’s great strengths become their epic failings.

Autumn can be glorious but menacing too - the long shadows, brisk winds, scurrying leaves, impending frost.

Every shrink knows that it's not the event itself but how you respond to it that tells the story. Take ten assorted individuals, expose them all to the same life trial, and they will each suffuse it with exquisite personal detail and meaning.

Even if you forget that´s not the same as if it never happened. The slate is not entirely wiped clean; you can´t reclaim the person you were beforehand; your state of innocence is not there to be retrieved.