The loss of illusions and the discovery of identity, though painful at first, can be ultimately exhilarating and strengthening.

We can consider the process of healthy growth to be a never ending series of free choice situations, confronting each individual at every point throughout his life, in which he must choose between the delights of safety and growth, dependence and independence, regression and progression, immaturity and maturity.

Love, safety, belongingness and respect from other people are almost panaceas for the situational disturbances and even for some of the mild character disturbances.

It is vital that people "count their blessings:" to appreciate what they possess without having to undergo its actual loss.

Well why not a technology of joy, of happiness?

We do what we are and we are what we do.

No psychological health is possible unless this essential care of the person is fundamentally accepted, loved and respected by others and by himself.