Be hated. One does not have to be evil to be hated. In fact, itโs often the case that one is hated precisely because one is trying to do right by oneโs own convictions. It is far too easy to be liked, one merely has to be accommodating and hold no strong convictions. Then one will gravitate towards the centre and settle into the average. That cannot be your role. There are a great many bad people in the world, and if you are not offending them, you must be bad yourself.
Adrian TanLife is complicated. It wtarts before we're ready, it continues while we're still trying to figure out the point of it. And it ends long before we've worked out just what to do.
Adrian TanIt is far too easy to be liked, one merely has to be accommodating and hold no strong convictions.
Adrian TanFind that pursuit that will energize you, consume you, become an obsession. Each day, you must rise with a restless enthusiasm. If you don't, you are working.
Adrian TanFinally, you will find that there is no half-measure when it comes to loving someone. You either donโt, or you do with every cell in your body, completely and utterly, without reservation or apology. It consumes you, and you are reborn, all the better for it.
Adrian TanIt far easier to find a reason not to love someone, than otherwise. Rejection requires only one reason. Love requires complete acceptance.
Adrian TanDo not waste the vast majority of your life doing something you hate so that you can spend the small remainder sliver of your life in modest comfort. You may never reach that end anyway. Resist the temptation to get a job. Instead, play. Find something you enjoy doing. Do it. Over and over again. You will become good at it for two reasons: you like it, and you do it often. Soon, that will have value in itself.
Adrian Tan