Don't despair: despair suggests you are in total control and know what is coming. You don't - surrender to events with hope.
Alain de BottonThat said, deciding to avoid other people does not necessarily equate with having no desire whatsoever for company; it may simply reflect a dissatisfaction with whatโor whoโis available. Cynics are, in the end, only idealists with awkwardly high standards. In Chamfort's words, 'It is sometimes said of a man who lives alone that he does not like society. This is like saying of a man that he does not like going for walks because he is not fond of walking at night in the forรชt de Bondy.
Alain de BottonDo you love me enough that I may be weak with you? Everyone loves strength, but do you love me for my weakness? That is the real test.
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