For paranoia about 'what other people think' : remember that only some hate, a very few love - and almost all just don't care.
Alain de BottonKant and Hegel are interesting thinkers. But I am happy to insist that they are also terrible writers.
Alain de BottonAccording to one influential wing of modern secular society there are few more disreputable fates than to end up being 'like everyone else' for 'everyone else' is a category that comprises the mediocre and the conformist, the boring and the suburban. The goal of all right-thinking people should be to mark themselves off from the crowd and 'stand out' in whatever way their talents allow.
Alain de Botton