To be loved by someone is to realize how much they share the same needs that lie at the heart of our own attraction to them. Albert Camus suggested that we fall in love with people because, from the outside, they look so whole, physically whole and emotionally 'together' - when subjectively we feel dispersed and confused. We would not love if there were no lack within us, but we are offended by the discovery of a similar lack in the other. Expecting to find the answer, we find only the duplicate of our own problem.
Alain de BottonThe study of maps and the perusal of travel books aroused in me a secret fascination that was at times almost irresistible.
Alain de BottonI assemble my ideas in pieces on a computer file, then gradually find a place for them on a piece of scaffolding I erect.
Alain de BottonWe often lose our tempers not with those who are actually to blame; just with those who love us enough to forgive us our foul moods.
Alain de Botton