We can never do the right thing as long as we are out to please someone else.

Sadism is not an infectious disease that strikes a person all of a sudden. It has a long prehistory in childhood and always originates in the desperate fantasies of a child who is searching for a way out of a hopeless situation.

All children are born to grow, to develop, to live, to love, and to articulate their needs and feelings for their self-protection

An unacknowledged trauma is like a wound that never heals over and may start to bleed again at any time.

The victimization of children is nowhere forbidden; what is forbidden is to write about it.

Empathy grows as we learn.

someday we will regard our children not as creatures to manipulate or to change but rather as messengers from a world we once deeply knew, but which we have long since forgotten, who can reveal to us more about the true secrets of life, and also our own lives, than our parents were ever able to.