The abused child goes on living within those who have survived such torture, a torture that ended with total repression. They live with the darkness of fear, oppression, and threats. When all its attempts to move the adult to heed its story have failed, it resorts to the language of symptoms to make itself heard. Enter addiction, psychosis, criminality.

Clinging uncritically to traditional ideas and beliefs often serves to obscure or deny real facts of our life history.

In the short term, corporal punishment may produce obedience. But it is a fact documented by research that in the long term the results are inability to learn, violence and rage, bullying, cruelty, inability to feel another's pain, especially that of one's own children, even drug addiction and suicide, unless there are enlightened or at least helping witnesses on hand to prevent that development.

One can only remember what has been consciously experienced.

Genuine forgiveness does not deny anger but faces it head-on.

We can never do the right thing as long as we are out to please someone else.

Problems cannot be solved with words, but only through experience.