It's hard, because when you talk about process or your characters ruling your narrative, it sounds like you have no control, but obviously you're ultimately the author, so you do have control.
Alice SeboldAll you have to do is desire it, and if you desire it enough and understand why -- really know -- it will come.
Alice SeboldBut also I wanted him to go away and leave me be. I was granted one weak grace. Back in the room where the green chair was still warm from his body, I blew that lonely, flickering candle out
Alice SeboldIf I had but an hour of love,if that be all that is given me,an hour of love upon this earth,I would give my love to thee.
Alice SeboldThe dead are never exactly seen by the living, but many people seem acutely aware of something changed around them. They speak of a chill in the air. The mates of the deceased wake from dreams and see a figure standing at the end of thier bed, or in a doorway, or boarding, phantomlike, a city bus.
Alice Sebold