There's no right way to be female or female-identifying. You can love clothes or you cannot love clothes. You can be a stay-at-home mom or you can have a career. You can do both. You can choose to have kids you can choose to not have kids.

I think specifically because of the character that I played, people are very connected to her. I used to get letters from young gay and lesbian and trans-gendered kids saying, 'I didn't kill myself because of Buffy'.

I've always been a big fan of books.

I always said that, when I grow up, I want to be like Joss Whedon: I want to have my own world.

Yeah, I'm a geek. I read sci-fi and I watch sci-fi films. I love my computer and I love to fix it. I'm a total nerd. I literally am a 12-year-old geeky boy trapped in a 32-year-old woman's body.

You were doing a TV show - you don't realise that you're also making social commentary at the same time.

I wouldn't want to forget anything, even the weird stuff and the bad stuff. It makes you who you are.