I worry that by losing my temper so much and being so harsh and yelling so much that, by example, I will have taught my daughters to be that way, and I'm now constantly telling them not to do that.
Amy ChuaBoth of my girls have very high self-esteem because they were both able to master certain things; I should think that's good for their confidence.
Amy ChuaWestern parents try to respect their childrenโs individuality, encouraging them to pursue their true passions, supporting their choices, and providing positive reinforcement and a nurturing environment. By contrast, the Chinese believe that the best way to protect their children is by preparing them for the future, letting them see what theyโre capable of, and arming them with skills, work habits, and inner confidence that no one can ever take away.
Amy ChuaI do think that maybe, even subconsciously, a lot of parents in the West are wondering, have we gone too far in the direction of coddling and protecting - you know, you see kids, sometimes that seem very rude and disrespectful. And the more important thing is they don't seem that happy.
Amy Chua