I was six when my mother taught me the art of invisible strength. It was a strategy for winning arguments, respect for others, and eventually, thought neither of us knew it at the time, chess games... "Come from the South, blow from the wind - poom! - North will follow. Strongest wind cannot be seen."
Amy TanYou have to be your own person. You can't let people's opinions determine how you think about yourself. There's a difference between identity and self-identity.
Amy TanI saw what I had been fighting for: It was for me, a scared child, who had run away a long time ago to what I had imagined was a safer place. And hiding in this place, behind my invisible barriers, I knew what lay on the other side: Her side attacks. Her secret weapons. Her uncanny ability to find my weakest spots. But in the brief instant that I had peered over the barriers I could finally see what was finally there: an old woman, a wok for her armor, a knitting needle for her sword, getting a little crabby as she waited patiently for her daughter to invite her in.
Amy TanClichรฉs are static, the emotion behind them long spent. If you are tempted to use them, here is a saying of my motherโs: Fang pi bu-cho, cho pi bu-fang. Basically that translates to: "Loud farts donโt stink, and the really smelly ones donโt make a sound." In other words: When youโre full of beans, you just blow a lot of hot air. If you want to have a real impact, be deadly but silent. Oh, also recognize the difference between a bad clichรฉ and a good quotation. My motherโs saying is a good quotation. You should use it often.
Amy Tan