Even if I had expected it, even if I had known what I was going to do with my life, it would have knocked the wind out of me. When something that violent hits you, you can't help but lose your balance and fall. And after you pick yourself up, you realize you can't trust anybody to save you- not your husband, not your mother, not God. So what can you do to stop yourself from tilting and falling all over again?

My parents told me I would become a doctor and then in my spare time I would become a concert pianist. So, both my day job and my spare time were sort of taken care of.

And then she had to fill out so many forms she forgot why she had come and what she had left behind.

So sad! This is the saddest part when you lose someone you love- that person keeps changing. And later you wonder, Is this the same person I lost?

People there only dream that it is China, because if you are Chinese you can never let go of China in your mind.

I don't steer clear of genres. I simply haven't steered myself toward some of them.

My parents had very high expectations. They expected me to get straight A's from the time I was in kindergarten.