Being in a marriage and having children is the greatest pleasure, but it is certainly not the easiest pleasure. It is not like eating ice cream.

I don't understand what the nature of God is. But I do have the feeling that I'm at some feet, and lucky to be there.

Loving our own children is an exercise for the imagination.

Parenthood always involves recognizing your child as separate and different from you.

The idea of what it is like to lose everything is awful.

You need to take the traumas and make them part of who you've come to be, and you need to fold the worst events of your life into a narrative of triumph, evincing a better self in response to things that hurt.

All parenting turns on a crucial question: to what extent parents should accept their children for who they are, and to what extent they should help them become their best selves.