When I was younger, not being accepted made me enraged, but now, I am not inclined to dismantle my history. If you banish the dragons, you banish the heroes-and we become attached to the heroic strain in our personal history.

Fixing is the illness model; acceptance is the identity model; which way any family goes reflects their assumptions and resources.

We cannot bear a pointless torment, but we can endure great pain if we believe that it's purposeful.

I'm a huge believer in science. But I don't think it explains everything.

I was in fact anxious about whether I would be any good at being a father. And then I met so many people who had been good parents under difficult circumstances, and I felt inspired by them.

In these xenophobic times, when politicians are stoking everyone's anxiety about threats from abroad, I would argue that engaging with the rest of the world is not only a luxury, in the way that travel is, but actually a moral responsibility.

People … don't want to be cured or changed or eliminated. They want to be whoever it is that they've come to be.