We don't seek the painful experiences that hew our identities, but we seek our identities in the wake of painful experiences.
Andrew SolomonThe absence of marriages will result in all kinds of financial burdens that gay people wouldn't face if they could get married.
Andrew SolomonI think what the Church should ideally do, and does appear to do in the context of straight relationships, is to support people in crossing from the easier pleasure of momentary carnal satisfaction, into the more difficult pleasure of love and family and relationship.
Andrew SolomonAntonio Gramsci said that social reformers should have pessimism of the intellect and optimism of the will. This means that one must have the intellectual ability to see how bad things are and the emotional ability to look forward with hope. It's a hard combination to sustain, but if you can do it, you can change the world.
Andrew Solomon