My cousin Roger once told me, on the eve of his third wedding, that he felt marriage was addictive. Then he corrected himself. I mean early marriage, he said. The very start of a marriage. It's like a whole new beginning. You're entirely brand-new people; you haven't made any mistakes yet. You have a new place to live and new dishes and this new kind of, like, identity, this 'we' that gets invited everywhere together now. Why, sometimes your wife will have a brand-new name, even.

Some people are aware of everything that is going on everywhere at every moment in their lives.

While armchair travelers dream of going places, traveling armchairs dream of staying put.

I'm beginning to think that maybe it's not just how much you love someone. Maybe what matters is who you are when you're with them.

And I am interested in the fact that class is very much a factor in America, even though it's not supposed to be.

It is not how much you love someone, but who you are when you are with him.

...if you catalogue grudges, anything looks bad.