Rare indeed, is the relationship in which the other is not cultivated for what one can get for oneself.
Anthony de MelloYou only change what you understand. What you do not understand and are not aware of, you repress. You dont change. But when you understand it, it changes.
Anthony de MelloMost people don't live aware lives. They live mechanical lives, mechanical thoughts - generally somebody else's - mechanical emotions, mechanical actions, mechanical reactions.
Anthony de MelloWe're crazy, We're living on crazy ideas about love, about relationships, about happiness, about joy, about everything.
Anthony de MelloPerfect love casts out fear. Where there is love there are no demands, no expectations, no dependency. I do not demand that you make me happy; my happiness does not lie in you. If you were to leave me, I will not feel sorry for myself; I enjoy your company immensely, but I do not cling.
Anthony de Mello