You sanctify whatever you are grateful for.
The seeker says, "I do not know." That takes honesty. The master says, "I do not know." That takes a mystic's mind that knows things through non-knowing. The disciple says, "I know." That takes ignorance, in the form of borrowed knowledge.
The only way to change is by changing your understanding.
If you never condemned you would never need to forgive.
You're so ashamed of your past; drop it! You're so proud of your past; drop it!
The only way someone can be of help to you is in challenging your ideas. If you're ready to listen and if you're ready to be challenged, there's one thing that you can do, but no one can help you. What is this most important thing of all? It's called self-observation.