Selfishness, when it is punished by the world, is mostly punished because it is connected with egotism.
Arthur HelpsRemember that in giving any reason at all for refusing, you lay some foundation for a future request.
Arthur HelpsBe cheerful [and grateful for the good that you have]: do not brood over fond hopes unrealized until a chain is fastened on each thought and wound around the heart. Nature intended you to be the fountain-spring of cheerfulness and social life, and not the mountain of despair and melancholy.
Arthur Helps