What makes people hard-hearted is this, that each man has, or fancies he has, as much as he can bear in his own troubles.
Arthur SchopenhauerA man never is happy, but spends his whole life in striving after something which he thinks will make him so; he seldom attains his goal, and when he does, it is only to be disappointed; he is mostly shipwrecked in the end, and comes into harbor with mast and rigging gone. And then, it is all one whether he has been happy or miserable; for his life was never anything more than a present moment always vanishing; and now it is over.
Arthur Schopenhauer