We cannot settle for the pretenses of connection, or for the parodies of self-love.

I have a duty to speak the truth as I see it and share not just my triumphs, not just the things that felt good, but the pain, the intense, often unmitigated pain. It is important to share how I know survival is survival and not just a walk throught the rain.

When we create out of our experiences, as feminists of color, women of color, we have to develop those structures that will present and circulate our culture.

Afraid is a country with no exit visas.

Our visions begin with our desires.

If you do not learn to hate you will never be lonely enough to love easily nor will you always be brave, although it does not grow any easier. Do not pretend to convenient beliefs, even when they are righteous; you will never be able to defend your city while shouting.

Pain is an event ... Suffering, on the other hand, is the nightmare reliving of unscrutinized and unmetabolized pain.