There are several ways to react to being lost. One is to panic: this was usually Valentina's first impulse. Another is to abandon yourself to lostness, to allow the fact that you've misplaced yourself to change the way you experience the world.
Audrey NiffeneggerEach spine was an encapsulated memory, each book represented hours, days of pleasure, of immersion into words.
Audrey NiffeneggerHe had never realized, while Elspeth was alive, the extent to which a thing had not completely happened until he told her about it.
Audrey NiffeneggerEven her name seemed empty, as though it had detached itself from her and was floating untethered in his mind. How am I supposed to live without you? It was not a matter of the body; his body would carry on as usual. The problem was located in the word how: he would live, but without Elspeth the flavour, the manner, the method of living were lost to him. He would have to relearn solitude.
Audrey Niffenegger