Silence and solitude are confrontational. They plunge us instantly into the truth.

All addictions have one thing in common - they numb you out to what is happening in the moment.

when your field is architecture, you go visit the great cathedrals of the world. My field was relationships. I got married many times. I was practicing. I didn't date much; I just would get married. I thought, why waste time?

The moment in between what you once were, and who you are now becoming, is where the dance of life really takes place.

If you don't develop your skill at enjoying what you have, you won't be any happier when you get more.

It is inherent in human consciousness to improve. So there is nothing unique about a people searching for and creating ways to make their life better - all civilizations throughout history have done this. What is unique about us in America is the accelerated rate at which we continually search for novelty and progress.

The more connections you and your lover make, not just between your bodies, but between your minds, your hearts, and your souls, the more you will strengthen the fabric of your relationship, and the more real moments you will experience together.