The point is to change one's life. The point is not to give some vent to the emotions that have been destroying one; the point is so to act that one can master them now.
Barbara DemingPeople who attack others need rationalizations for doing so. We undermine those rationalizations.
Barbara DemingPeople may find it more comfortable to listen to us if we equivocate, but in the long run only words that discomfort them are going to change our situation.
Barbara Deming