What you want is what you need. Your dearest wish comes straight from your core, loaded with vital information about who you are and who you can become.
Barbara SherIt's essential to distinguish between events that are really beyond your control and events you caused yourself.
Barbara SherWhat you are is a human being, sensitive and alive, with genius inside of you. Not only that, but you are one of a kind. There has never been anyone like you before. You see the world in a unique way because you have unique gifts. That's the way nature made you. And it will feel like nothing less than fulfilling your destiny to follow those gifts to a rich and exciting life, full of purpose and meaning and enjoyment.
Barbara SherBeing judgmental about your own behavior is actually another cop-out because it makes you feel as though you're doing something virtuous.
Barbara SherHuman beings are not comparable. You can't compare us any more than you can compare roses and oranges, or mountains and the sea. You might prefer living by the sea to living in the mountains. You certainly like some people better than you like others. Preferences are perfectly valid...they're just your style asserting itself again. But you'd feel pretty silly saying 'The sea is better than the mountains.' It's every bit as silly to go around saying 'I'm better than Mary, but Joe is better than me.'
Barbara Sher