Love is a handful of seeds, marriage the garden, and like your gardens, Paula, marriage requires total commitment, hard work, and a great deal of love and care. Be ruthless with the weeds. Pull them out before they take hold. Bring the same dedication to your marriage that you do to your gardens and everything will be all right. Remember that a marriage has to be constantly replenished too, if you want it to flourish.

Always present yourself as a woman who expects to succeed.

Life was life. It happened. You never knew what was going to come at you. Or how you could defend yourself.

Never let stress shape your strategy. Most women think better after a brisk walk, a light meal, a massage and a nap.

Successful women don't sleep until noon.

What is done can never be undone.

I work eight hours a day, but I'm not writing all that time. I'm thinking, editing, looking something up. Thinking is what I do a lot of.