People with healthy self-esteem do not need to create pretend identities.

Genuine love is rarely an emotional space where needs are instantly gratified. To know love we have to invest time and commitment...'dreaming that love will save us, solve all our problems or provide a steady state of bliss or security only keeps us stuck in wishful fantasy, undermining the real power of the love -- which is to transform us.' Many people want love to function like a drug, giving them an immediate and sustained high. They want to do nothing, just passively receive the good feeling.

The greater our commitment, the more likely our love will last.

Power feminism is just another scam in which women get to play patriarchs and pretend that the power we seek and gain liberates us.

Most of us find it difficult to accept a definition of love that says we are never loved in a context where there is abuse.

We are rarely able to interact only with folks like ourselves, who think as we do. No matter how much some of us deny this reality and long for the safety and familiarity of sameness, inclusive ways of knowing and living offer us the only true way to emancipate ourselves from the divisions that limit our minds and imaginations.

When men and women punish each other for truth telling, we reinforce the notion that lies are better.