I'm 90% performer, 10% musician. I've always said that Gossip are a band I would go see, not a band I would listen to.

I knew that if I wanted to stop being a pushover I had to get comfortable with small rejections myself. That took some work, but because of it I can now say no to other people with a clear conscience.

I have no control over what people think of me but I have 100% control of what I think of myself.

Sometimes love can mean letting go and loving each other from a distance. Maybe that's what you're feeling?

In moments when I question if I should be having kids, I think of all those phone calls from my sister-in-law, in which, 3,000 miles away, I hear my nephews screaming for her attention. I tell her I have to go because I am packing to leave for Europe, and her tone flatlines: "That must be nice."

Life is not about creating an unreal existence. People should be challenged to find something cool about the mundane.

For years now I have run a kitchen-sink punk salon in my house, called Salon du Gay. In the early days, people would pay for a riot grrrl bob or a passable bleach job with a mixtape, $3 or a selection of baked goods - whichever they could afford. More recently though, with Gossip doing well, I've performed these punk hair transformations for free.