What you subconsciously want, you will get. And what you subconsciously do not want, you will avoid.
Happy couples make it a habbit to refocus. Because it's quite normal to be distracted. So they talk. They get away for a while. They pray. They go on a marriage retreat. They take a second honeymoon or a 3rd, or 4th, or a 5th...
Live uncluttered lives so you could have time for what is most important.
Earn more to grow more, and grow more to give more.
Don't focus on the problem, focus on the PURPOSE.
Your deepest pain will be your most Glorious Blessing.