And the Buddha is the person who's free: free of plans, free of cares.
Once you see your nature, sex is basically immaterial.
Whoever realizes that the six senses aren't real, that the five aggregates are fictions, that no such things can be located anywhere in the body, understands the language of Buddhas.
Many roads lead to the Path, but basically there are only two: reason and practice.
And as long as you're subject to birth and death, you'll never attain enlightenment.
The Buddha is your real body, your original mind.