To seek is to suffer. To seek nothing is bliss.
All know the way, but few actually walk it.
According to the Sutras, evil deeds result in hardships and good deeds result in blessings.
To find a Buddha all you have to do is see your nature.
This one life has no form and is empty by nature. If you become attached by any form, you should reject it. If you see an ego, a soul, a birth, or a death, reject them all.
Once you see your nature, sex is basically immaterial.