You will find no answers here, just choices.
Will covers a multitude of flaws, just as love covers a multitude of sins.
Love is a madness. Love is Failer - Durzo Blint
The master who fears the choices his people will make enough to take those choices away isn't worth serving.
A man’s greatest treasures are his illusions - Durzo Blint
Why did women always believe that talking about a problem would fix it? Some issues were corpses. Hot air made them fester and rot and spread their disease to everything else. Better to bury it and move on.