The love and attention you always thought you wanted from someone else is the love and attention you first need to give to yourself.
The ignoramus crow of "love it or leave it" omits other viable options, such as staying and changing it.
Fanatic is often the name given to people of action by people who are lazy.
Freedom is the realization that it is sufficient to simply be a human being.
As free as you allow others to be, such freedom you create for yourself.
You are the artist and the art.