If we accept Heaven we shall not be able to retain even the smallest and most intimate souvenirs of Hell.
Christianity has not message for those who do not realize they are sinners.
Die before you die, there is no chance after.
If they are wrong they need your prayers all the more; and if they are your enemies, then you are under orders to pray for them. That is one of the rules common to the whole house.
100 per cent of us die, and the percentage cannot be increased.
If, as I can't help suspecting, the dead also feel the pains of separation (and this may be one of their purgatorial sufferings), then for both lovers, and for all pairs of lovers without exception, bereavement is a universal and integral part of our experience of love.