Both love and democracy depend on voice -- having a voice and also the resonance that makes it possible to speak and be heard.

While men represent powerful activity as assertion and aggression, women in contrast portray acts of nurturance as acts of strength.

I've found that if I say what I'm really thinking and feeling, people are more likely to say what they really think and feel. The conversation becomes a real conversation.

For a man to be a man, did he have to be a soldier, or at least prepare himself for war? For a woman to be a woman, did she have to be a mother, or at least prepare herself to raise children? Soldiers and mothers were the sacrificial couple, honored by statues in the park, lauded for their willingness to give their lives to others.

My research suggests that men and women may speak different languages that they assume are the same, using similar words to encode disparate experiences of self and social relationships. Because these languages share an overlapping moral vocabulary, they contain a propensity for systematic mistranslation.

The blind willingness to sacrifice people to truth, however, has always been the danger of an ethics abstracted from life.

Theory can blind observation.