In former days, everyone found the assumption of innocence so easy; today we find fatally easy the assumption of guilt.

a revolutionary marriage ... [is] one in which both partners have work at the center of their lives and must find a delicate balance that can support both together and each individually.

The compulsion to find a lover and husband in a single person has doomed more women to misery than any other illusion.

You can flush my ashes down the toilet, for all I care.

One hires lawyers as on hires plumbers, because one wants to keep one's hands off the beastly drains.

Once you are thought selfish, not only are you forgiven a life designed mainly to suit yourself, which in anyone else would appear monstrous, but if an impulse to generosity should by chance overpower you, you will get five times the credit of some poor selfless soul who has been oozing kindness for years.

As long as women are isolated one from the other, not allowed to offer other women the most personal accounts of their lives, they will not be part of any narratives of their own…women will be staving off destiny and not inviting or inventing or controlling it.