The sign of a good marriage is that everything is debatable and challenged; nothing is turned into law or policy. The rules, if any, are known only to the two players, who seek no public trophies.

. . . a relationship has a momentum, it must change and develop, and will tend to move toward the point of greatest commitment.

It's hard to be happy, and safe, and applauded in a miserable world.

One hires lawyers as on hires plumbers, because one wants to keep one's hands off the beastly drains.

... success always worries academics, when it moves into the popular world.

Shifting problems is the first rule for a long and pleasant life.

one sank into the ancient sin of anomie when challenges failed.