a revolutionary marriage ... [is] one in which both partners have work at the center of their lives and must find a delicate balance that can support both together and each individually.

The married are those who have taken the terrible risk of intimacy and, having taken it, know life without intimacy to be impossible.

. . . a relationship has a momentum, it must change and develop, and will tend to move toward the point of greatest commitment.

I don't know why togetherness was ever held up as an ideal of marriage. Away from home for both, then together, that's much better.

Upon becoming fifty the one thing you can't afford is habit.

It's hard to be happy, and safe, and applauded in a miserable world.

one sank into the ancient sin of anomie when challenges failed.