Needing something is not the same thing as being interested in the thing itself.

When blame has been assigned, the story is over.

I don't think that most women have to prove that they're real women. You live long enough, you graduate to being real.

Before, I was always trying to make my relationships work by means of willpower and forced affability. This time I didn't have to strive for anything. A quality of ease spread over us.

You think that what I've told you is an anecdote. But really it isn't. It's my whole life. It's the only story I have.

In truth, there are only two realities: the one for people who are in love or love each other, and the one for people who are standing outside all that.

Every relationship has at least one really good day. What I mean is, no matter how sour things go, there's always that day. That day is always in your possession. That's the day you remember. You get old and you think: well, at least I had that day. It happened once. You think all the variables might just line up again. But they don't. Not always. I once talked to a woman who said, "Yeah, that's the day we had an angel around.