Relaxing your hair is like being in prison. You're caged in. Your hair rules you. You didn't go running with Curt today because you don't want to sweat out this straightness. You're always battling to make your hair do what it wasn't meant to do.

I live half the year in Nigeria, the other half in the U.S. But home is Nigeria - it always will be. I consider myself a Nigerian who is comfortable in the world. I look at it through Nigerian eyes.

Feminist: A person who believes in the social, political and economic equality of the sexes.

If you start thinking about being likable you are not going to tell your story honestly.

We did that often, asking each other questions whose answers we already knew. Perhaps it was so that we would not ask the other questions, the ones whose answers we did not want to know.

You can't write a script in your mind and then force yourself to follow it. You have to let yourself be.

I write from real life. I am an unrepentant eavesdropper and a collector of stories. I record bits of overheard dialogue.