It is not whether your words or actions are tough or gentle; it is the spirit behind your actions and words that announces your inner state.
Chin-Ning ChuWhenever your mind is totally absorbed in whatever activities you are performing, your mind will remain calm and content.
Chin-Ning ChuIf a fox is unable to befriend a tiger, then the fox should create an illusion of close association with the tiger by carefully trailing behind the cat while boasting of the deep friendship they share. In this way, he creates an impression that his well being is of great concern to the tiger.
Chin-Ning Chu