So when I say that I am a refugee, you must understand that there is no refuge.

Our own personal brand of courage - in relationships, in conflict, in our principles ­ - is as unique as our fingerprints.

Even for a girl like me, then, there comes a day when she can stop surviving and start living. To survive, you have to look good or talk good. But to end your story well-- here is the truth-- you have to talk yourself out of it.

It was the month of May and there was warm sunshine dripping through the holes between the clouds, like the sky was a broken blue bowl and a child was trying to keep honey in it.

To be well in your mind you have first to be free.

Is it my fault if I do not look like an English girl and I do not talk like a Nigerian? Well, who says an English girl must have skin as pale as the clouds that float across her summers? Who says a Nigerian girl must speak in fallen English...?

Sometimes we don't notice that someone is being brave, because they are only doing something that seems quite easy for us.