Don't think that there's a different, better child 'hiding' behind the autism. This is your child. Love the child in front of you. Encourage his strengths, celebrate his quirks, and improve his weaknesses, the way you would with any child.
Claire LaZebnikSometimes people say that kids with autism aren't capable of love. That's ridiculous. My son loves deeply. He's just doesn't communicate well.
Claire LaZebnikAnd Derek was... what? A pair of dark eyes that hid more than they revealed and some broad shoulders and a mouth that could be cold and thin and then suddenly widen into a generous grin just when you thought such a thing was impossible.
Claire LaZebnikMan, I hated not being able to figure someone out. And from the slightly uncertain look he gave me as we all went to class, I suspected he felt the same way.
Claire LaZebnikValue people because of who they were deep down, not because of their names or their parentsโ clout.
Claire LaZebnikI want a tutor,โ Layla said. โIt would make doing homework so much easier.โ โMe too,โ said Kaitlyn. โIf Layla gets one, I get one.โ โNo daughter of mine will ever have a tutor,โ Dad said. โWhat if weโre failing a course?โ asked Layla. His graying eyebrows drew together. โIf you fail a single course, young lady, we will pull you out of school and get you a job scrubbing toilets for the rest of your life.
Claire LaZebnikNo one's family is normal. Normalcy is a lie invented by advertising agencies to make the rest of us feel inferior.
Claire LaZebnikHe was wearing a plain white oxford unbuttoned over a T-shirt, but something about the way they fit made him look put together, like an Abercrombie model (well, like an Abercrombie model who had remembered to put on a shirt that morning).
Claire LaZebnikBut I know how this romantic stuff works: one girl's perfect guy is another girl's reject. And right now I'm glad of it.
Claire LaZebnikHe canโt ground her if heโs already killed her,โ I pointed out when Juliana quoted this to me. โWell, he can, but it wouldnโt have the same impact.
Claire LaZebnikIsabella: "Why are you being so mean to me?" Harry: "Because i love you" Isabella: "Does that ever work?" Harry: "On my mother it does." Isabella: "I'm not your mother." Harry: "I know that already, because I'm enjoying your company.
Claire LaZebnik..."And then we played Ping-Pongโโ โNot pool? I always assumed he was a billiards manโI mean, itโs so handy the way he keeps a stick up hisโ
Claire LaZebnikAlex touches her arm. "You look nice." "Nice?" she repeats. "Try harder, Alex." He flushes adorably. "Really nice," he says. "Next time, try this," Harry says. He reaches for my hand. "Franny, I didn't know what beauty was until I saw you walking toward us a minute ago. "I like this better," I say, pulling away. "At least he sounded like he meant it." "I meant it," Harry says, almost irritably.
Claire LaZebnikEveryone at Coral Tree Prep was good-looking. Really. Everyone. I didn't see a single fat or ugly kid all morning. Maybe they just locked them up at registration and didn't let them out again until graduation.
Claire LaZebnikFor a long time our son ws a little boy with autism, which was a certain kind of challenge. Now that he's a teenager with autism - and a teenager who notices girls - we're faced with something else altogether.
Claire LaZebnikBasically, the world is a giant shithole. But some of us are capable of imagining something better.
Claire LaZebnikHe only invited me because of you and Chase.' 'Right,' she said, following me inside. 'He's never shown the slightest interest in you before. I mean, he's never stared at you like you're the only person in the room when we're all together. Or sulked around for days because you turned him down for a dance. Or touched the sleeve of your sweater when he thinks no one's looking-' 'He's never done any of that,' I said. Then, less confidently, 'Has he?
Claire LaZebnikJuliana's a year older than me, but she sometimes seems younger - mostly because she's the opposite of cynical and I'm the opposite of the opposite of cynical.
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