In dealing with the dead, if we treat them as if they were entirely dead, that would show a want of affection and should not be done; or, if we treat them as if they were entirely alive, that would show a want of wisdom and should not be done.
ConfuciusI do not want a friend who smiles when I smile, who weeps when I weep; for my shadow in the pool can do better than that.
Confucius