Behave when away from home as though you were in the presence of an honored guest. Employ the people as though you were assisting at an important sacrifice. Do not do to others what you would not like yourself. Then there will be no feelings of opposition to you, whether it is the affairs of a state that you are handling or the affairs of a family.
ConfuciusUnify your attention. Do not listen with your ears, but with your mind. Do not listen with your mind but with your essence.
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