Discernment is God's call to intercession, never to faultfinding.
No matter how deep our darkness, he is deeper still.
To pray only when in peril is to use safety belts only in heavy traffic.
In order to realize the worth of the anchor we need to feel the stress of the storm.
God's viewpoint is sometimes different from ours - so different that we could not even guess at it unless He had given us a Book which tells us such things....In the Bible I learn that God values us not for our strenght or our brains but simply because He has made us.
Forgiveness is an act of the will, and the will can function regardless of the temperature of the heart.