I always hoped that I would settle down with someone. Marriage, I could really give two shits about, as an institution, but it makes things easier.

Your life could be taken from you at any moment. Between AIDS and the violence against gay people that was so prevalent back then, you really didn't feel like you were living in the United States of America, in a first world country. You had a sense that life was a precious commodity you had to fight to keep.

We had the fun of being outlaws. But there's a whole generation now coming up with new gender identities. For this generation of kids who don't think that being gay is anything special, they might be more interesting than any of us.

Don't come to New York until you've finished a book. It's too expensive. You'll never write anything. You'll spend all your time working to pay the rent.

Most contemporary fiction sucks. It's intellectually dishonest, often morally dishonest. It's cheap and easy. It pretends to be deep but is really quite shallow.

I'm a novelist. I think fiction is important or I wouldn't be doing it, but most of it's bad.

Sometimes when we think we’re protecting ourselves, we’re really hurting ourselves. And sometimes the people around us too.